Does spiritual practice require forsaking marital relationships? Why do spiritual practitioners need to restrain from sexual desires? Supreme Master Qing Hai points out: for most people, it’s not that they are not free or not liberated, but rather they bind themselves too tightly; it is not  husband, wife or sexual desire that binds us . We can also do our spiritual practice while enjoying  sex , as long as you know it and are not attached to it, there will be no problem. It’s only we cannot  be detached from it , so we need to minimize it.

Back at home you need to take good care of your family. Do not  dream too much. Do not  compare the differences between being a monk and  a householder . If it’s our destiny to stay home, then stay home. If it’s our destiny to be a monk and we really want it, then go for it;  Don’t  compare. Don’t think it’s better to become a monk; nothing is better than we practice diligently and have a good Maser and a good Method. Take good care of your situations, live the way you should live, find time to meditate everyday, do your job efficiently and try to make peace with your families, then you will be more peaceful when your meditate.